Real Self-Care by Pooja Lakshmin

I heard about this book on the December 27, 2022 episode of the Book Riot podcast. It sounded interesting, the title is cheeky, and I liked the cover so I requested it from NetGalley.

Lakshmin has an interesting background having been the doctor for a cult. Now, preferring to teach real self-care, Lakshmin boils it down to embracing internal change and cultivating dialectical thinking (acknowledging that two seemingly opposite truths can occur at the same time.)  And, of course, looking at what self care is, and isn't. Because, while spa days and perfect nails might seem like easy fixes, they often cause even more stress costing women both time and money. And heaven forbid mothers do anything like that. Judgment comes down even harder.

Self-care has so often been seen as a noun but Lakshmin offers the advice that it should be a verb. And, while hedonic well-being (spas, retreats, etc.) is good some of the time, what is really going to make us feel good is eduaimonic well-being (focusing on having our actions be in line with our values and having a life that has purpose.) The latter form of well-being also means being able to make difficult decisions and to be able to say the word "no" when activities don't align with our values. It also means treating ourselves with compassion and learning more about ourselves and being able to tell yourself that you matter. And, taking steps toward real self-care might mean more work. And there might not be a clear finish line. 

I have read a lot of these suggestions before but the ones that I recognized are things that have worked (and are still working) for me. 

Four stars

This book comes out March 14, 2023

ARC kindly provided by Penguin Group Viking and NetGalley

Opinions are my own

Georgie, All Along by Kate Clayborn

Georgie is stuck. She's used to living her life for other people but she's been cut free from her job as a personal assistant. Luckily, her best friend is pregnant and could use some help. So she moves back home. Her parents are off on one of their RV trips so Georgie is shocked that someone else is in the house.

Levi Fanning, older brother of the boy Georgie crushed on most of her high school career, just needs a place to stay. His dog is a pit bull and isn't accepted everywhere. Also, it's a small town and, remembering Levi's wicked past, he isn't accepted everywhere. Georgie's kindhearted but absentminded father has invited him to stay at the house as well. 

Overall, this was a fairly enjoyable story of Georgie discovering herself again and finding love with Levi. Georgie was a little too much at times (as were her parents) and Levi's last little temper tantrum wasn't really needed but a good story. 

Three and a half stars

This book came out January 24, 2023

Borrowed as ebook from Hoopla

Opinions are my own

Bet Me by Jennifer Crusie

A great read where the heroine is truly curvy (not some 5'9-and-150-pounds-curvy-my-ass heroine) The hero is still the classic TDH (tall, dark and handsome) but Minerva (Min) doesn't even believe in love. She has her two best friends and her beloved sister, so what more does she need out of life? Well, she's still dating, but the last guy broke up with her, accusing her of being frigid, then turning around and trying to bet Calvin (Cal) Morrisey ten thousand dollars that Cal can't get her into bed within a month. Cal doesn't take the bet, but nobody seems to believe him.

Min overhears the conversation and decides that she'll teach Cal a lesson by going out to dinner with him and then unceremoniously walking out. The two have some major obstacles including both sets of parents (Min's mom is convinced she's fat, Cal's parents think he's dumb) that have given them hideous insecurities. 

It's a romance so of course there is a HEA, but I LOVE the fact that they don't actually have kids. Every other happily ever after has kids somewhere in the picture and that just isn't actually everyone's cup of tea so this is a refreshing change of pace.

Four stars
This book came out January 1, 2004

Borrowed as audiobook from Kindle Unlimited (came with ebook)

Opinions are my own

Murder Above the Silver Waves by Blythe Baker

Lillian Crawford and her brother are crossing the ocean to get away from some big disgrace. It's fairly large but, luckily, there are still some people on board willing to talk to them. But Lillian is doomed to be a name on people's lips once again when, while strolling the deck one night, she witnesses a murder. Being a plucky 1920s female main character, of course Lillian is going to try and solve the murder herself. Of course, she and her brother aren't the only people on board with a secret. And the more she looks, the more she's likely to get herself into trouble.

This was a decent start to a series and I have a feeling it will get better as the characters are developed more. 

Three stars
This book came out December 26, 2021

Followed by Murder Within the Uneasy Crowd

Borrowed as ebook from Kindle Unlimited

Opinions are my own

Mrs. Mix Up by Candace Harper

Two librarians have a mutual crush but are both hesitant to make a move. When they end up in the same room at a conference, their feelings finally come out.

This felt like a first book but an earnest effort. It took me a little time to get through because some of the language hadn't been quite smoothed out but was a fun little diversion.

Three stars

This book came out February 29, 2020

Ebook from Kindle

Opinions are my own

A Lady of Rooksgrave Manor by Kathryn Moon

I heard about this book on an episode of Smart Podcast Trashy Books. They made it sound fun and interesting and Kindle Unlimited had it available so I thought, "Why not?" 
This was one of the few times that SPTB and I will have to agree to disagree. I never connected with Esther or could tell what kind of person she was outside of the fact that she really, really, really likes to have sex. And I'm not slut-shaming here, I just would have liked to know more about her or any of the gentlemen that she gets to know throughout the story.  

Two and a half stars

This book came out March 23, 2021

Followed by The Basilisk of Star Manor

Borrowed as ebook from Kindle Unlimited

Opinions are my own

The Backup Plan by Jill Shalvis

Alice, Knox, and Lauren have a shared past. Lauren was involved with Alice's brother (Knox's best friend) but he died. Now the three have been brought together because Lauren's great aunt died and left them a B&B. Well, it's going to be a B&B. And they'll only inherit if they all stick around. But there's an even stickier past that starts to come to light as they all work together. 

There are so many layers to this story that none of them get truly developed. We know that Alice fears going back in the barn, Lauren is on the verge of losing her job, and Knox... well, we don't get to know Knox all that well. But the book is still a lovely read and, if you don't want to go to deep into emotions and are looking for a closed door romance, this will be the book for you.

Three and a half stars

This book came out January 17, 2023

Follows The Friendship Pact

Followed by The Sweetheart List

Borrowed as ebook from Libby

Opinions are my own